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Do Tell: Does Your Mother Ever Drive You Nuts?

Wed, 10/29/2008 - 2:00pm by DearSugar
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How many times do you hear someone say that her mom drives her nuts? I hear it all the time, and truth be told, I've said it my fair share of times too. Now don't get me wrong, I love my mom; I'm very fortunate to have the relationship I do with her, but sometimes her over-protective nature and smothering affection can be a little too much. And even though she's always there for me — whether it's to give advice or offer a listening ear — do tell, does your mom ever just drive you nuts? And if so, what is it specifically that gets on your nerves?

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  • amloveaffair's picture
    amloveaffair
    1

    Always. I used to be really close with my Mom when I lived with them but I moved out and now she always annoys me.

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Fallen85's picture
    Fallen85
    2

    Not very often, my mom is pretty chill. She's more like a really amazing girlfriend then my mom ever since I got out of college. My stepdad on the other hand drives me bonkers! He still bosses me around and always tells my mom that i dont want her advice. Good thing my mom and I know what our relationship is about so we just ignore him.

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • lauraxtc's picture
    lauraxtc
    3

    YES!!

    ALTHOUGH I KNOW SHE MIGHT BE JUST LOOKING OUT FOR ME.
    I AM THE LAST DAUGHTER AROUND AND I KNOW ALL SHE WISHES FOR ME IS THE BEST BUT SOMETIMES, I THINK I NEED MY SPACE AND SHE NEEDS TO MIND HER BUSINESS.

    OH WELL I STILL LOVE MY MOMMA.
    ONE DAY I WONT HAVE HER AND I GOTTA MAKE SURE TO APPRECIATE HER NOW.

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Sun_Sun's picture
    Sun_Sun
    4

    my mom is, simply put, the best mom ever. she would do anything for us. ANYTHING. and i dont think anyone loves me/will ever love me as much as she does.

    so if im feeling a little annoyed by her, i remind myself just how annoying i must've been for her at times too but she never showed it, so i tell myself to get over myself Sticking out tongue

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • ilanac13's picture
    ilanac13
    6

    my mom and i used to have the typical mother/daughter relationship where everything she did bugged me and vice versa i'm sure. as i grew up i realized that there's a lot more to my mom and i really do love her and don't let the things that she does get to me. it's not often that it happens that we get on each other's nerves anymore since we know what to avoid.

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • bluestar's picture
    bluestar
    8

    Yes, she does! She calls me and goes on and on about people in her neighborhood. I have no idea who any of them are. LOL...gotta LOVE her though! Smiling

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • avocado_seed's picture
    avocado_seed
    10

    My mom has some weird obsessive compulsive um... reactions, which have just gotten worse over the years. She tends to get upset over some of the stupidest things, so yes, my mom does drive me nuts, but since I don't live with her anymore, I don't have to deal with it very often. Not to mention, she was extremely strict and old-fashioned when I was growing up. I wasn't allowed to do many basic things that my friends were able to do without a single thought, so I definitely had my share of arguments with her growing up...

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • quitecontrary's picture
    quitecontrary
    11

    I don't wanna be the downer, but my Mom died when I was 13 and I would LOVE to know what it's like to have a Mom to break your balls. On the other hand, I count myself lucky as to not have compare myself to anyone- I'm pretty free to choose my own path, but I always wonder what I'm missing. I'll never see the face that I will inevitably become. Anyone with a tough Mom, take a moment to feel lucky that you have a Mom at all. I miss her. A lot.

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Mesayme's picture
    Mesayme
    12

    No. I never have to deal with her. And my stepmother is an awful narcissistic heifer...never want to see her again. Ever.

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • UrbanBohemian's picture
    UrbanBohemian
    13

    My mom can drive me nuts, but I always love her. I think she's just good at her job as a parent Smiling

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Sun_Sun's picture
    Sun_Sun
    14

    quitecontrary--im really sorry for ur loss. 2 yrs ago my mom was diagnosed with lymphoma (cancer) and i was terrified of losing her. thank God she is now cancer free, but i appreciate her so much more now. Smiling

    10 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • quitecontrary's picture
    quitecontrary
    15

    Thanks, sunsun. Sometimes I only dream of her pestering me. And other days I'm glad that I don't have to answer to anyone. It's made me a bit scared to become a Mom because I have no real reference.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • HeidiMD's picture
    HeidiMD
    16

    I don't like my mom. I used to hate her, but once I grew up, the anger I had towards her for leaving our family subsided because of time and distance. Now that she is back in my life (sort of), she drives me nuts! I'm so glad that I never had to grow up with her. She would have absolutely unbearable. She is the most overbearing person I've ever met, and she takes EVERYTHING personally. If my self-centered, whiny, juveniles-in-adult-body half-sisters didn't drive me nuts, too, I'd feel sorry for them for having to live with her for eighteen years.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • higgydt4's picture
    higgydt4
    17

    I'm 23 years old, 5'4", 125 pounds and my mom told me today that I was getting fat. I don't believe mom's are supposed to do that...?? She's very rude but I'll always love her.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • dino dino's picture
    dino dino
    18

    i´m 5'5 and 112 pounds, my mother often makes comments at my weight and shes also always telling me i look trashy Smiling i think most moms do that

    my mother can be quite rude though, she calls me a moron and has said she hates living with me Smiling

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • valancyjane's picture
    valancyjane
    19

    If my mom and I were in touch more often I'm sure she would drive me nuts. But I live halfway across the country (not on accident!) and she doesn't like long phone calls so ... most of the opportunities for her to aggravate me are gone. Plus, I've grown up a lot and I'm letting go of my dream of the perfect mom; so I try to let her be what she is.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • heartbreakerx62x's picture
    heartbreakerx62x
    20

    My mom can be terribly annoying, and sometimes acts like the kid. But, she is the only parent I have!

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • popcorn19's picture
    popcorn19
    21

    Yes.

    Love her to death--but I cannot live with her. She's one of those people that I could spend hours on the phone with, but the day I go to my parents' house to visit, I just need to get out of there.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • babysoftpink's picture
    babysoftpink
    22

    Yes. Sadly I have not spoken to her for 2 years but still have nightmares of her and my father. The dreams also seem so real that I would cuss so bad that I wake myself sometimes.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • babysoftpink's picture
    babysoftpink
    23

    Additionally, I don't like her calling me names in the most disgusting ways.. She has been doing that comfortably since the day I was born and on the phone and she could spill out all kinds of VERY demeaning words that are targeted towards women and break anyone down if she so wishes. It takes many years away from her to heal myself and I won't ever want to be living with her ever again in this or next life or the life after. It also takes years of both emotional and physical abuse for me to get to this point. (I was physically injured by my parents) She does not do this in front of others except one time that she did it to a supervisor at work and got herself into trouble.
    Thanks to my overcoming this experience, I can take on anything and any person in this life without fear.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • bengalspice's picture
    bengalspice
    24

    My mom always calls me at work to tell me to quit my job, go back to school so I can marry a "nice boy." She doesn't listen when I tell her she should stop calling me at work to ask me when am I planning on getting married ... because it pretty much ruins my work day and whatever momentum I might have in getting my work done.

    Thanks Mom for throwing a wrench in my day!

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • macchiatolove's picture
    macchiatolove
    25

    of course! I think it's their perogative, if not their right to irritate the hell out of their children!

    My mum sounds a bit like yours, Avocado Seed!

    she has funny OCD kind of things that she does that drive me crazy - like she weighs all the washing so she doesn't overload our washing machine.

    She also ALWAYS asks me what I'm doing in the kitchen 'apart from making a mess' - she knows exactly what I'm doing. I'm making a bulk load of lunches to freeze, therefore saving money during the week. And yet, if I went out every day and got take away she'd complain about me wasting money.

    You can't please 'em!

    Although, I know I am super blessed, I'm very lucky and I love my mamma to death!

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • kia's picture
    kia
    26

    My mother has no concept of who I am. She checked out of my life when I was nine and lives in a time warp that I am still nine. That drives me nuts when she passes judgement on me without even knowing me. What really is maddening for me is that her examples she uses in her long-winded speeches to me are based on actions my sisters did, she gets me and my siblings mixed up a lot!

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • erniew's picture
    erniew
    27

    My mom absolutely drives me insane. She's incredibly opinionated, controlling and has this amazing ability to transform into a martyr at the drop of a pin...BUT, she is an amazing mother. She is strong, wonderful, loving, patient and giving. She has raised four amazing children (I am one of them!), continued to care for my father/her ex-husband following an amicable but lengthy divorce and is beloved by her eight grandchildren.

    Our relationship is an interesting one because I live down the street from her (she moved near me, not the other way around) and we've always butted heads. She fears my older sister, is glued to my younger sister and always rushing to take care of my brother. I've needed her less and I think that makes us friends but ones that do not always agree.

    Over the years I've learned how to assess, deal and move on. We have a good relationship. I can't complain.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • italianblonde's picture
    italianblonde
    28

    The title of this post is definitely a rhetorical question!! My mom always drove me crazy when I was younger. She'd always be standing over me when I was on the computer or doing my homework, I hated that. And she hates noises like swallowing food, pouring drinks, or breathing hard when you are sick, so she was always yelling about that. Actually, she was always yelling. We've only had two 'normal-tone' conversations ever. Even when I moved out she'd always call me and assume I was doing terrible things and would just yell. Though I do realize she cares about me, umm..there are other ways to communicate besides derogatory comments.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • gemsera's picture
    gemsera
    29

    I havent spoken to my mother in years. thats the way i like it.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • mama8699's picture
    mama8699
    31

    No to be a downer either...but my mom passed away several years ago and I thought bar-none she was the most over-bearing, critical and feisty thing I had ever seen. And yes she drove me buggy. We could spar like no ones business. BUT, I know that she loved me, she did her best and now that I am a mom, I see more than ever the sacrifices she made for me as she rasied me as a single parent. And I realize no parent is perffect. So yes, if your mother is still alive and she has her occassional crazy moments, appreciate her and love her while she's still on this earth.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • javsmav's picture
    javsmav
    32

    nope. we talk a couple times a month & get along fine. She isn't overbearing or nosy or any of that. we're not super close, but she doesn't drive me nuts.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • CaterpillarGirl's picture
    CaterpillarGirl
    33

    Sometimes she does, but its rare, usually its because she is nagging me about doctors appointments (she is a nurse)

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • AnnaMaria816's picture
    AnnaMaria816
    34

    I have a great relationship with my mother. She is very intelligent, hardworking,empathetic and supportive. But she has a bad habit of being too picky about how I behave in public and at family gatherings.

    10 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • pippins_halfling's picture
    pippins_halfling
    35

    I love her, but sometimes she is just not understanding at all. She hates the very idea of boys (even though this is my second year out of the house!), and she thinks all of them are out to rape you (no joke). I'm also an average weight for my height, but she is always making me feel inadequate and should lose "just little bit" more. Ah well. It's her weird way of showing she cares.

    10 weeks 15 hours ago Report Comment
  • mushaboom's picture
    mushaboom
    36

    Never. I'm lucky. We talk every few days, though sometimes not for a week or two, but she'll drop me an email or a facebook message if it's been too long, to check that I'm still alive.

    And I call her, she really only calls when there's news or to return my call.

    We live very different lives, i.e. I gave up the religion she raised me in and basically live like a filthy heathen. But she passes no judgement. None. She really just respects that I'm an adult and I know who I am, and that's the most important thing.

    We're close, she's there when I need her. She's pretty great.

    10 weeks 5 hours ago Report Comment

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